So today is one of those days that makes you question why you are still here! You know one of those days that you just say WHY DO I STAY IN THIS LIFE, can I just get in my car and drive away from it and pretend this part of my life was never reality! This is what I call a MANIC day lol.
It all started when I woke up today at 7am thinking great Ill get a shower and be at my Dr.s appointment early.. but no that just couldn't happen. Instead I go in the bedroom to tidy up after getting everyone breakfast and thinking it was going to be a good day... is it ever? When I move the pillows there is HAIR all over the bed... like someone just got their hair cut at first it was black synthetic hair, maybe from a baby doll? Then there was blond hair ... that would be my daughters hair.
Now those of you who do not know my daughter she is unlike any 4-year-old she is extra smart but extra hyper! she uses big words and has since she was about 2-years-old. She will cry if you try to cut her hair but had decided that she would cut it on her own just to cause trouble this morning! (I know she has cried when another kid tried to cut her hair and protested that girls don't get their hair cut). So I was upset not only did she try to lie I spanked her and told her if she continued to lie that she would just continue to get spanked. So she told me that she cut her hair and that she got the scissors from the kitchen. She went on to say that she cut Dora the explorers hair as if she didn't have bad hair already! (come on most moms would agree Dora's hair is hideous).
So with all that said I freaked out about the hair, and was upset, but her father comes running in and gets angry with me and causes a big confrontation over the fact that I am upset that she cut her hair... just to cause trouble.
So he and I go to fighting and he starts telling Kailey that it is her grandmothers fault that she acts this way. I go on to tell him that he shouldn't make up excuses for her because that is only allowing her to be bad think he is going to just make up a reason she is doing it. He tells me that I am now some child guru and that I think I know everything. Well since I have known my daughter for four years and he has been a part time parent the whole time you would think he would respect the fact that I know my shit right? Well NO!
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So I leave I go to my Dr.s Appointment I am 20 minutes late for! I get all my shit checked, blood taken, urinalysis and when we get to the blood pressure part it is a whopping 180/98 UP SO fricken high, and I can feel it too... cause the hole way there i have someone on the phone calling texting and IMing me with BS garbage falling out of his mouth!! I can not stand days like this.... I literally can feel my blood pressure rise... it feels like a vein in my neck is about to explode.
This is the end of the study I was in for Rheumatoid arthritis. They aren't approving the medicine even though it worked for me! I hate that... they said it didn't take on a significant amount of people and putting in for approval would just be a waste of time. So now I am on my own again when it comes to the only medical problem I have, besides some asthma which I have pretty much grown out of... what little i have now is just triggered in the mornings due to my smoking habit that I just can't seem to kick... that is my own fault now though..
Today's lesson is do not blame other people for what you have done or what your children do. It is up to you to teach them that certain things no matter WHO else does it, is inappropriate and not allowed for them! It is kind of like when I was a child, parents cursed, but children did not. If you were to say a 4 letter word your mouth would be smacked and you would have to get soap in the mouth. We knew better and never did. Also picking your own switch was appropriate and being respectful and thankful for your parents and the things you got were a common thing. Now kids show no respect I discipline my daughter and it holds no barring and I am just sick of it.
I make no excuses for her and I try my best to catch myself before I say things like "I can not quit smoking because of all the stress of being with someone who isn't supportive and having a child that is disrespectful." Because that is just an excuse. Yes I smoke more when I am stressed out and I feel bad... (I replaced over eating with smoking) It is a mental and oral fixation and I will one day beat it. I have quit smoking 4 times... it gets harder the more you do it! So as you know if you are a former smoker especially the odds are stacked against me I plan to have fully quit smoking by the time I am 30 though!
Also I would like to just say neither of my parents smoked or drank growing up.. none of my grandparents did either... (well my grandfather on my mothers side did both, but we weren't hardly exposed to it as he lived over 3 hours away). My mother who is 46 years old decided at 44 she would start smoking and hasn't quit yet. I guess the Smith/Wisdom women aren't quitters! I know I am not normally a quitter I will try my guts out and normally give up if the try is 100% not worth it! Believe me I have been in the trying game for over 20 years now and have won about 60% of the battles only because I never gave up. I am a 60% 'er folks yes I win 60% of the time and 30% of the time I lose. But hey life isn't fair and 30% looser is not sooo bad. So I have to go now I gotta get a particular little munchin to Cheerleading.
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What should be going on!
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"Oh and she told her father she cut some of her hair to make me get upset with her so that he would yell at me" I guess because she knows I will get upset and get agrivated with her or spank her which sometimes before he even knows what is going on he goes to yelling at me cause he thinks I just like to spank our kid which is just not true!
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