The end is the end.

So. I tried to call my "friend" Anna yesterday, apparently she is being a big ass Titty baby, cause she is taking this whole situation that SHE created and blaming it all on me. She whined and cried in my truck on Saturday night saying that I didn't call her back ects... enough... or as much as she would have liked me to.

So... I didn't know I had to call her all the time. I didn't know that if I called her back I must leave a voice mail for the past 2 years I have never left but 2 voice mails and both were joking voice mails, not even anything!

So apparently I decide yesterday I will give her a call. Act like nothing ever happened since I wasn't the blame for the fight and I was not involved I was not about to get in on it. She didn't answer, which is not untypical as her phone gets no service out where she lives at.. for some odd reason. So when I call it goes to voice mail, and since she cried and asked why I didn't leave a voice mail (which in my mind is totally stupid cause I have never "HAD" to leave a voice mail.) I don't work 7 days a week.. and I am easy to get hold of. I answer my phone every time and I don't have any problems with it.


I leave her a voice mail yesterday and she eventually gets it and sends me a message on Face book... the message reads "Hey I got your call I'm just not much in a talking mood this week. Sorry."

My reply was: "Well, that's cool. If you wanna quit talking to me let me know that is fine. I am bigger than a spat between my cousin and my friend, and if in the end that is all it takes to ruin our friendship then there never was one. And I hate that. (My real feelings by the way... not drama just what I really feel!)

When you see info in (parenthesis) that is what I am thinking about the crap she wrote me, and by the way this was not said to my face.. or over the phone it was posted on Face book in a private message cause apparently someone doesn't have the balls to talk to what they claimed was their friend.

Anna's Reply:
That is dramatic.. trust me I say what I am thinking, no problem. I think I have a right as a grown person to say that I don't feel like talking sometimes, (really after whining in my car that NO ONE CALLS YOU ENOUGH) which is what I said. besides, i didn't hear the call, I saw the call had come in previously and got a message I'm very busy with many many things other than spats with friends! (Really I didn't have a spat you threw a bitch fit in my car cause you decided you weren't getting enough attention who does that? That is just weird!) I'm run ragged most weeks now and quite honestly don't feel like dealing with anything else right now except work and family. Taking a break after an incident is a normal and rational way to handle something. (really well since I didn't do anything it is a weird and bitchy way to treat your Friend) It is better than forcing the topic and staying upset. (hmm... I wasn't going to even talk about the topic! I didn't know bitch was gonna take it out on me, over something I had nothing to do with!)

My reply:
K Whatever. You know Anna I think I am done. I don't need a whinny needy friend I need a real friend. Sorry you can't be that. I didn't have a spat, I had nothing to do with it and you are taking it out on me! So you know I think I am better off without all that! (I am pregnant and in my truck she insisted on yelling and pounding her fist on the dash! She yelled at me as if her argument that she started was my fault!)

Anna's Reply to that:
wow, just wow. Never wonder again why you don't have a lot of friends. (hmm I may not have a lot of friends... but you only had one! So I am pretty sure now you have none). geez. I have a real life, a busy life, (oh really then why were you SO upset that I wasn't calling you every waking moment, also I work a job as well you aren't talking to a jobless person, been working longer than you... I mean this is your first job in years... I think 9 to be exact almost 10.) and I wont be controlled by someone else's expectations of what I should be doing at all times. (OK now I don't know what she is talking about? All times... no one said anything about all times, swear this is not the Anna I know and she is fucking Psycho maybe she needs a trip to lake shore). That is overly controlling and ridiculous. (what? the fact that I refuse to have a person in my life who takes out her crazy mistakes on me when I am willing to just let the ruined night (that she ruined) go? Or I was until she drug it out like a crazy person) Needy, you're the one having a freak out b/c I didn't feel like talking once in like 2 years. My God. Is that not the definition of "needy" and "whiny" (No, you were being a bitch saying you didn't feel like talking this week! that is not once that is a decision you have made to be a bitch. After having a controlling melt down in my car crying expecting me to call you every freaking day answer my phone, which i did,  and stay on it as long as you wanted to and then get off when you feel like... not when I have to or need to! Now doesn't that sound weird to everyone else?) I wasn't whining, I stated that I wasn't in a talking mood. Whiny is going on and on about, saying I'm taking stuff out on you, saying hate full sharp comments like "I'm done"  and "I'm better off without all that!" reread my messages and tell me exactly where I said anything like those comments that you Ive kept it neutral. The things you're saying right now are the kind of comments that you complain about buddy making to you all the time.
(Umm what? No. Buddy doesn't decide he is going to be mad at me over a spat with someone else! The kind of comments I made to you were the kind that pissed off people make to crazy bitches when the crazy bitch decides to yell at them in their vehicle with no reason to, I have the right to be mad you on the other hand started a fight in my car out of complete disrespect, not with me but with another woman that you expected me to be able to control? You are 30 years old grow up!)
Him expecting you to answer his text, etc. All the time.. yet you do the same things... the very things you complain about in other people. You don't have to talk to me anymore, I'm not gonna have a meltdown, or freak out about it.Whatever suits you, you just roll with that.  (I didn't expect you to call me back, I honestly didn't expect you to be a bitch and send me some snide remarks about how you don't feel like talking THIS WEEK either)

What I said to Anna:
You know Anna here is what you said " With many many things other than spats with friends." YOU ARE  the only one who had a spat. (not me) I had nothing. I don't even know why you are mad at me. And the other night you were complaining I didn't call you enough or return your calls and now it is fine that you do it to me. I'm not demanding anything. I just am not gonna sit and be upset because my "friend" is mad at me over a spat between her and someone else that I had nothing to do with. My real friend wouldn't blame a situation between two adults that I had nothing to do with on me. I guess you learn who your real friends are in the end.

I'm very busy all the time to, but many days while at work I made time for my friend because I'm a real friend.

So she never replied back after that. I am sure she has flipped her lid, and she thinks that yelling at me over something that I didn't do is cool and the way anyone else would have treated her in the event it had been one of her family members. But I think as Adults, you can't control what another Adult chooses to say. Weather they are your family, or friends you can't make them mind you they aren't children! They have minds of their own. I would love some feed back if anyone actually reads this.. I mean it would be nice to get an outsiders Idea on what I have done wrong. Or hell even what is going on cause I am literally confused... hormonal and upset by the whole situation. It will pass and I will never talk to her again because you just don't go back after a stupid crazy spell like this.

Plus I wont have friends who start arguments in my car because they cant just let a drunk girl run her mouth cause that is what drunks do they say stupid shit and do stupid shit... my cousin was drunk and though she has never offended anyone with her weird drunken behaviors before she struck a nerve with Anna and Anna yelled at her. She didn't stop there, she continued for over an hour. With a drunk person who couldn't reason if you wanted them to!


Not only that but she yelled at me and pounded her fists on my dash of my truck (and she wasn't even drunk folks) because she was pissed cause I didn't say nothing to Erin, but I had asked them both to stop, and they were both disrespectful yelling at each other threatening each other ects. They are 30-years-old and 25-years-old. One is family the other is a friend of 2-years (whom is older and should be wiser than my cousin).

So I don't know what to think. I figured let it go Sunday, and any other adult would have cooled down by Monday and let it go... that is what I did until "Miss I don't feel like talking this WEEK" sent me a snide message on Face book. I honestly wished I had never replied.

I have to send her an email now, so I can make arrangements to come up and get my crap out of her barn. I don't even want to go back up there but honestly it is stupid that I leave me stuff up there when it is my stuff and I am not going to forgive her at this point. Because in my opinion there was nothing to forgive on OUR parts, and we should have continued like normal. But she wants to be all weird and bitchy so I am not the type of person who wants that kind of friend. I like friends who know how to treat their friend, who know when their friend has done something and when they haven't and who also knows when a friend can be totally psychic and when they can't.

I have never been psychic... never claimed to be either. Well my cousin Erin came over yesterday to cheer me up. She isn't mad at me and Anna was my friend not hers... she didn't feel the need to take that out on me.

I guess this is what I get for Helping Anna out, watching her kids, traveling to help her family out when she asked. Doing things to help her out with her dad. Fund raising for causes she was for. I mean what kind of a friend is that. I know I was just a horrible awful friend.. who deserved to be yelled at.. and treated like crap. Who deserved to drive out of her way for many things. I am just bad.