Yes I have had little to no time to post.
My oldest daughter will be 9 soon.
My youngest just turned 3-years-old.
I want another baby.
He wants no more.
Sooo...
On with the blogging.
Im still unwed. Why? Well I will fill you in. While I was pregnant with Emma (youngest 2011)
I had a hard time. I suffered a lot of set backs in anxiety, and when you are pregnant you will say and do anything, its like someone else has taken over your body. So if I offended anyone while I was pregnant I am sorry.
I had sat a date to get married, but the man I have 2 children by and who harrasses me atleast once in a while about why I wont marry him is imperfect.. I don't want perfect but I want a decent wedding. I know that sounds so selfish. But I told some co-workers I was going to get married around the end of march. So then he tells my boss and 2 of my co-workers he has no idea what they are talking about because it makes him uncomfortable to talk about his "personal business" in the presence of others. so I was like Oh fucking well we wont do a damn thing just live like most people do unmarried with children.
So ladies and gentlemen here are my rules for those that havent gotten themselves stuck in sucky situations yet.
Amanda's Rules for relationships 101
1. Guys if she makes you miserable dont drag out the relationship.
2. Girls if he makes you miserable leave... dont wait till you have kids and have to "share".
3. If you can't do for her things that make you uncomfortable find a girl that will do just what you want.
4. Girls things shouldn't always go the way he wants or you want there is a thing called compromise and we should always use this. you cant always have it your way.
5. Children are not just HER or HIS responsibility a real man helps with the children.
6. The house is a family things children and men and women should work together to make it a home.
7. Everything that goes on is not a sinister plot to get one up on the other. If this is how your relationship is GET OUT its not a relationship it is a horror fest.
8. EVERYTHING in your life should be chosen by both of you. not by one. and it should be for the good of your whole family.
9. Credit card debt is bad you want to build credit only use it when you can pay it.
10. Stay out of debt as much as possible.
11. Buy a house as early as possible, you do not want to be in debt for a home until your kids are grown and gone and you are retired.
12. You should always have joint bank accounts and a savings separate which you separate a small amount of your paychecks so you have money to spend on what you may need, such as a surprise for the other.
13. You (either of you) should never be selfish.
14. You should never fight in front of your chidlren.
15. You should always have time for each other.
16. If you cant be faithful do not get in a relationship.
17. You should care deeply enough for the person you are with to not hurt them with things that are not true, or things you do not think about them.
These are just my rules. It is unfair for yourself or the other person to stay if you have no common sense to compromise and to TALK not scream and yell about things. There is never a reason to scream and yell and finger pointing never fixes a thing.
So here are my kids lol
Hope you enjoy the blog.
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